Thursday, March 12, 2015

30 Day Pledge




As I way to help me in reacclamating back to America, I am pledging to to find a positive thing I appreciate in my new home country, America, each and every day for the next month. 
I will add to this blog regularly.
For those who have always lived in U.S., you might be  saying "Duh, America is the best place on earth!" But one thing I learned early in life (because I moved around a lot in the U.S. as a child), every place has it good and bad points. I could do the same thing for Swaziland and South Africa but for now my focus is to be on the positive of where God has put me right now. I hope those who live in the USA will have a renewed appreciation for those things they might have taken for granted. And  for those in other countries, I encourage you to do the same for the country you are residing...it should be easy. All places are the same, just different! 
So let's rejoice and embrace those differences!

Day #1 The sound of water

Water is soothing for me and although I am not near an ocean, I have the sound of running water coming in my bedroom window from the fountains in the man made lake outside my mom's back yard. Ahhhh, music to calm my spirit.

Day #2 A gym!

There is a gym and a senior center nearby. I took a Zumba class today!
When I was having a rough time last year I was so thankful for the gym in Nelspruit to keep my  endorphins up and help with keeping a positive attitude. God is good and I look forward to losing a
few pounds and adding a bit of muscle in the process!

Day #3 Paved roads!

On this rainy day in Tulsa I am relishing that I get to drive solely on "tar" (paved) roads and not on muddy, sliding, full of ruts dirt roads.

Day #4 Thrift stores!

What better way to get clothes I need than at a thrift store and on half price fill a bag day!
4 pairs of pants, 2 skirts and 3 tops for under $25 and some still had new tags on them!
I also actually got to try things on in a dressing room!
(Those who have been to bend and pick with me in Swaziland knows what I usually use.)

Day #5 The opportunity to worship

It is refreshing to know that God is the same everywhere. Worship might take different forms, but it is wonderful to change it up and sing some of the traditional hymns again.
"Trust and Obey" the hymn I try to live by.
Thanks Indian Springs Baptist Church!

Day#6 The opportunity to learn

I feel lost in technology. It is a bit intimidating and also exciting to learn new things and feel more comfortable with my computer and hopefully my phone (I hope I will get it today). Just to have workshops available is wonderful  but to have free ones....I am very grateful!

Day #7 Laughter

Not all my positive things, as you might notice are things only found in the states. As I finish out my first week on this side of the pond, I find that the gift of  laughter is helping me adjust. Amongst all the chaos of unpacking and setting up life in Broken Arrow, my mom and I find laughter has been a good release of tension.

Day #8  Technology

I know social media can be excessive and overdone but from the aspect of having lived on the other side of the world it is wonderful. I honestly cannot picture life as a missionary without it.
From being on this side of the ocean I am loving unlimited phone calls and texting! It is very limited in Africa, but What's App is there and I am thankful for being able to use it to keep in touch with friends across the ocean!
So 3 cheers for technology!!!

Day #9 Our dogs

One of the extravagant things I did in moving was bringing Logan ( my Yorkie) with me to the states with me. My mom also has a dog, Shawnee (a beagle mix). Although it will take time for them to fully adjust I am thankful for their company and their need for a walk. They keep us on our toes and keeping us  active.

Day #10  Christian Radio Stations

There are radio stations in Africa but very eclectic in what they play on it from talk radio (not usually in English) to gospel to rap to native music. Since I have arrived I have truly enjoyed driving in the car and being able to listen to Christian radio.

Day #11 Cruise Control

Such a blessing! Drove out to get some of my things that a team had brought ahead for me and in that hour drive (and yes I am driving on the right side of the road) it was nice to be able to set the vehicle on cruise control. My how that would have been nice on some of my drives in Africa.

Day #12 Friends

None of these things I am thankful for are listed in importance but just as they come up. But if I were to rank them, friends, would be at the top of the list. I had friends who brought some of my things from Africa when they were there last Dec. and stored them until I arrived. I have friends on both sides of the ocean checking up on me to see how I am doing. And at church and the gym, I am making new friends all the time. God is so good! I treasure the relationships more than the "things"
in my life.

Day #13 Free Refills

One of the frivolous things I am having fun with (although I haven't been out to restaurants much) is that I can have free refills and plenty of Dr. Pepper!!!

Day #14 Weather Tracking

Bad weather happens everywhere in one form or another but in Oklahoma tornados come quickly. I am thankful for the sirens that let you know, even if you are in Walmart to take shelter.

Day #15 A sturdy home

Having been places where people live in homes that are not very durable, secure, warm or even dry, I am thankful, especially on stormy nights, for how fortunate I am to have a sturdy roof that doesn't even leak, windows and doors and floors that aren't dirt.

Day #16 Mom

Mom's are great, no debate there. But even at my age, when you are sick, it is nice to know that your mom is there. She doesn't even have to do anything. It has been a long time since I've been able to have my mom nearby when I got sick.

Day#17 A bed

Between stormy weather and being sick, wow I love that I have a nice warm bed that is soft and cozy!

Day#18 Health

Often you wait until things are gone before you realize what you had. Between being sick and hearing the struggles of those with cancer and surgeries and other illnesses, I am so thankful that overall I am pretty darn healthy and strong.

Day #19 Teachers

In this case I'm talking my Sunday School teacher. I am thankful that our teacher on Sunday is a man of God who is passionate about God. He dives deep to into scripture and encourages and challenges me to not let it be in a box of what I think it should be but to let it be alive and speak to me even if it challenges my beliefs. The more you learn, the more you realize how much you don't know.

Day #20 Eyeglasses

It is nice to have places you can easily go and get your eyes checked and get glasses to make it easier to see while you drive and while your read. Yes, I'm getting my first pair of bifocals.

Day#21 Customer Service

Some things just don't go well. I left my old computer with the ministry in Africa. My new used one was not only something I needed to learn how to use, it wasn't working like it was suppose to and actually turned out not to be what I had supposedly purchased. I was not a happy camper. I prayed for a calm spirit as I went back to the store because I was hot under my collar. But I had the nicest manager who despite his bad day with employees and other customers (I was there just before closing). He was sincere, fair and made sure things were made right. I'm so grateful for this ex-navy man's attitude of integrity and customer service and his commitment to do his not so glamorous job with excellence!

Day #22 Beautiful weather

it is so nice when you have the time, the friend, the place and the weather cooperates to have a lovely walk and talk. Sunshine for the soul both inside and out! Thanks Janelle for the exercise, counsel, laughter and friendship!

Day #23 Neuro psycologist

Yeah, I didn't know there were such a person either. But my mom saw one today and through a battery of "silly" tests he will be able to know which parts of the brain aren't functioning properly and with that information determine what is probably causing the issues she is having. I might need to sign up because I seem to be having many a "brain fart" (is what I call them) myself.

Day #24 Positive Attitude

Mom and I got to eat out and popped into a Subway at the late end of lunch time. It seemed to have been a busy day yet I was greeted with an enthusiastic manager. I had to take notice of his quick smile, joyful comments and great attitude. I left happier and with a feeling of being appreciated! Wow, from a place I was just buying a sandwich. I have resolved to try and remember the difference one person's attitude can make and to make mine be where someone else feels appreciated!

Day #25 Senior Discount

While I am being positive about America, let me celebrate getting older too! I qualify for a lot of senior discounts at 55 AND was qualified to join the senior center where I am learning Tai Chi and how to play bridge!

Day #26 Reality Shows

In this area I am probably over doing it but it has been a lot of fun watching Dancing with the Stars, rooting for a local singer on the Voice and seeing Amazing Race travel through Africa!

Day #27 Flowers

Spring is in the air! And although spring came in Africa too, I enjoy the different flowers. The Easter lilies, tulips and hyacinths are beautiful as well as all the pansies and my mom's rose bush is blooming! Gorgeous and fragrant!

Day #28 Mexican Food

Except for friends who are good cooks, Mexican food has lacking in my diet while in Africa! And bottomless chips and salsa is muy bueno!

Day #29 New Challenges

You would think that being a missionary that God would call me to get involved in an area I have experience in......NOT! God loves to stretch us and grow us in our faith! So pray for me as I start to lead a women's bible study (including cooking dinner), help with the sound and video and whatever else God has in store. (My missionary friends can stop laughing now! God is known for His miracles!)

Day #30 God is the same

The best thing about transitioning to the states is that even though my environment has changed and I am changing, my God is the same one who held me up in Africa. He is the same one who provided my needs or made my needs match what He had provided. His love for me and for everyone I come into contact with has not altered; it is still beyond my comprehension. I am so thankful that He is. Period. Nothing more and nothing less.

Be blessed my friends! I know it seems more exciting to hear what God is doing in a culture far away but I look forward to all He is going to be doing in Broken Arrow, Oklahoma and I hope to be an active part of some of it! I hope that you too will be able to notice all that He is doing where you are, no matter which side of the ocean you live!







Saturday, March 7, 2015

Tick Tock

Overwhelmed, head spinning, emotions all over the place. Only 2 more sleeps until I try to transport my life in Africa in suitcases across the ocean. So much to do, but tick tock. But some things never change...God is with me. quiet time first.
"Search for the Lord and His strength..." 1 Chronicles 16:11
"But forget all that---It is nothing compared to what I am going to do. For I am about to do a brand new thing. See I have already begun! Do you not see it? ..." Isaiah 43:18-19
P.S. Another new thing, my replacement.... Chanan Kutenda Manyawu born 6 March to Vimbai and Tendai. Love you guys and will miss you!
(Note: Tropical setting is my living room picture not Africa.)

Thursday, February 26, 2015

It's Rough

 My devotion today is Psalm 32:8
 "The Lord says, 'I will guide you along the best pathway for you life.
 I will advise you and watch over you.'" 
Ah, sweet words but even when you know where He is telling you to go, it can be rough.
It's not going to be easy for me to leave Africa.
I have been having moments, as my last day draws near (less than 2 weeks), of being angry with God, moments where I challenge or even doubt His plan. This morning I had the opportunity to listen to Beth Moore's telling of the time when God told her to brush an old man's long grey unkempt hair (he was a total stranger). It is a beautiful story of humility and obedience and of seeing God use it for His glory. Step by step I am transitioning back to living in America, something I honestly cannot picture after 7 years in Africa. But God has been faithful to show me again and again over the years, that He can be trusted. And His way unfolds something beautiful and usually has an unexpected blessing attached.
 I moved a lot as a child and know that there are good points and not so good things about every place. (Africa has it's not so good points too, just different ones than the U.S.) My goal when I land in Oklahoma, is to recognize and appreciate the good and to recognize and make peace with the things that might not be so good or just different enough that I miss where I was. 
Trust and obey.  Even when sometimes it is tough to actually do. One step at a time.
This step is goodbyes and trust.

Psalm 32:8 has more impact to me though when I add verse 9 
"Do not be like a senseless horse or mule that needs a bit and bridle to keep it under control." 
Ouch! 
Here's to trusting God and and my new pathway (it is the best)! 

And to remembering to not be... yeah, you know what I mean.
Have a great day!

Sunday, February 22, 2015

Asikulumisane

With just over 2 weeks before I leave Africa, I'm enjoying reflecting on this FB post from 5 years ago about my favorite Siswati word ... Asikulumisane "ah-see-coo-loo-me-saw-nee". So in the spirit of this Timehop, may I communicate how much I love the people in my life on this side of the ocean, that have touche my life over the past 7 years!
To those I have worked with (including those who preceded me in leaving Africa), those who have let me high five twirl them, all those I have offended, all who have loved on me...and so many more...I leave my love and admiration. You have helped me to listen better, be more relational and to "let things go" because "it will sort" (even my moving back to the states). I will miss you deeply but rest in the knowledge that one day, whether in Africa or in our eternal mansions, we WILL dance and sing and twirl together again!
'Just over 2 weeks before I leave Africa! 󾌹 I'm enjoying reflecting on my favorite Siswati word! 
So in the spirit of this Time Hop, may I take the time to communicate how much I love the people in my life over the past 7 years! 
To those I have worked with (including those who preceded me in leaving), those I've high five twirled,✋󾆶, the ones I have offended, all who have loved on me, and who have helped me to listen better, be more relational and to "let things go" because "it will sort" (even my moving back across the big blue sea); I leave my love and admiration. I will miss you deeply but know that one day whether here or in our eternal mansions, we will dance and sing a twirl together again,󾌬'

Wednesday, December 24, 2014

Merry Christmas!!!

It is Christmas eve and I'm remembering. I'm reflecting on memories and traditions and change.
Growing up, Christmas equalled Family. EVERY Christmas (with the exception of one when we were snowed in in Colorado) until I was married, we spent Christmas eve with my dad's side of the family and Christmas day with my mom's parents. Christmas was family reunion time. Bingo, fried okra, ham, homemade rolls and buying craft ornaments the day after Christmas and making them for the next year. After I was married, things changed. Now it was every other Christmas with my family and the other with my in-laws (my other family) filled with Christmas Eve talent show and a birthday party for Jesus. Great fun! Memories and traditions are great and we miss them but new ones are good also.

I've been in Africa 7 years. Christmas no longer equals family to me. It can't because I am on the other side of the ocean. And family is not the reason for the season. Christmas is the celebration of the birth of my Savior. It's not that we didn't know that with family but in the mission field the realization hits you harder that so many don't really know that; don't really know Him! So now Christmas equals Christmas parties to me. Parties for children whom many haven't had the opportunity to celebrate Christmas in a party. They don't know that they are the child of the King of Kings! Many don't know that they are special and loved and cherished by God and by others. It is has been a unique new tradition that I have looked forward to each year.

As I am working through a book on reentering back to my home culture (next March), I know that next Christmas will not longer hold this tradition but will be the start of something new in some form or other. I will definitely miss the parties. My happy place is laughing, splashing and encouraging children to go on the water slide. My most touching moment was my first Christmas party in South Africa when Emoyeni had the children leave through a prayer tunnel where they prayed blessing over every child. 
Change is not bad, it will bring new opportunities to love on others during this season and share the reason for His birth. And the parties in Africa will continue to bless children (even without me). So as my Christmas Eve comes to a close and I get ready to watch my favorite Christmas movie......It's A Wonderful Life, I decided to go through and post a few pictures from each year of parties. From the super colossal ones, to individual CarePoints  in Swaziland, to the ones in South Africa. Enjoy and view with pleasure! It is not sad to look back and know it will never be that way again. Instead it is great to recognize what we have experienced and know that it has prepared us to be a part of a new experience in the future. Thank you Lord for the memories!

2008 (No pictures from 2007)











2009 (Individual CarePoints)



 2010


 2011




 2012 Swaziland and South Africa

 













2013 South Africa

2014











The hands you see below sticking out of the bubbles is me attempting to go down the water slide at the very end of the party at Mangwaneni (my CarePoint for 5 1/2 years in Swaziland) with a little help from my friend.  It was my baptism so to speak of starting to say goodbye to Africa. 
(At least for now.)


FOR UNTO US A CHILD IS BORN!!!
Take time this season to love well on family, friends and strangers and share how much God has blessed you! I am grateful for how He has blessed me! And I am thankful that He was willing to leave heaven and be born on earth just for me and for each one of us! 
I will miss Africa in a huge way but I trust the One who is starting me down a brand new path. I will rejoice in the opportunities to love that I have had here. I will smile and laugh remembering all the people I have been blessed to work alongside, the exhaustion from the Christmas parties and the joy and excitement of the children. And I will look forward to the adventures even in ordinary routines that lie ahead. 
MERRY CHRISTMAS TO ALL AND TO ALL A GOOD NIGHT!